The Eight Stages of Ego Death

The ego is a projection of what we feel we have to be versus who we really are and, like a protective cocoon, it is meant to be shed once we fully open our heart and discover not only our true self but our part in an evolving loving plan.

As such, the heart transcends the ego and the ego is no longer needed ~ for inner validation has replaced the need for outer validation.

Here are the Eight Stages of Ego Death ~ which countries and civilizations can also experience by losing touch with their founding principles and moving to the dark side of political manipulation, control and unchecked or unregulated financial greed as America has recently done.

1. DENIAL

There is nothing wrong with me ~ everything is perfect ~ I'm in full control !

2. ANGER

I can't stay in control and manipulate things any more ~ it's not working anymore and it's making me angry.

3. BARGAINING

I'll hang on to something so I won't get out of control and have to deal with the unknown, the truth and all those scary feelings deep inside me ~ that I have avoided for years.

4. DEPRESSION

Why am I feeling so sad, and it seems to go so deep. If only I could get out of this pit of overwhelming despair.

5. ACCEPTANCE

I'm feeling so sad and there is nothing I can do about it. I can't deny these feelings or the truth any longer.

6. SURRENDER

What is this joy and excitement I'm feeling beneath this sadness ~ and it doesn't have anything to do with someone else. It's me ! I'm finally beginning to trust my deepest feelings and a growing sense that everything is going to be all right.

7. CELEBRATION

Being myself is not only enough ~ its beautiful. I will no longer say no to myself or allow my self to be controlled by fear ~ especially my fear of love and Joy ! This is the most difficult stage of ego death for you can no longer use someone else as an excuse for you saying no to yourself. As such, it is the ultimate yes to yourself.

8. BEING IN SERVICE

There is something I'm supposed to be doing and I'm ready to do it !

Stage eight has been confirmed by virtually every recorded Near-Death experience where the person comes back from death with two realizations ~ Life is all about love and a renewed need to be in service from a place of love, joy and worthiness.

Allen L Roland

Allen L Roland is a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his weblog and website www.allenroland.com
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