So you think you want to fall in love!

by jl scott, ph.d.

How strange that we relate being in love with "falling." Or that it's often thought of as "losing our hearts." Yikes! Who needs that?

Entering into a relationship in an effort to fulfill something we think we don't have is self-defeating. Believing that another person will make us complete is doomed to failure. We must work through our own issues and come to a place of being a whole, emotionally healthy person within ourselves. Only then will we attract other whole, emotionally healthy people.

The kind of committed relationship many people only dream of is clearly defined. It consists of two whole, and emotionally healthy, people coming together to form a greater whole. That greater whole is the relationship itself. Two hearts coming together to create a greater heart.

The relationship becomes an entity unto itself. Decisions are based, not on what is best for one partner or the other - but on what is best for the relationship itself.

What we want most is for someone to really know us - and accept us as we are. We must be willing to do the same. Accept love as a celebration of humanness - not perfection. Each person is a very unique human being. People are fascinating - keep an open mind. But, know what you're looking for. Then - trust your heart.

Bottom Line ~

Join one another in: Love - Trust - Unity - Light - Faith - Surrender - Truth - Courage - Freedom. You will not have "fallen in love." You will be lifted in love!